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Whats wrong with me
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I always tend to fall for the wrong guys. You know the ones that cheat and lie. Well this last guy was no differnt, we hung out for 2 weeks and got really close emotionally, but I always felt like he was keeping something from me. After we had a few fights I decided to let him go and then a week later I found out he had a girl all along. I really liked him he made me feel special and I though we had a bond. We've been done about 3 weeks but I can't stop thinking about him even though I know he's not worth it. Whats wrong with me? |
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well that what hppen to me alot and iknow that is hard i love these guay but he cheted on me comple of times |
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its hard - but u gotta put youself before anybody else - u are a privelege, not a right. u'll think about him for a bit but then someone new and special will come along and u'll wonder how stupid u were for liking a jerk. its all a matter of time missy - there's nothing wrong with u. its okay to make mistakes, its the only way u'll learn. heard that old saying - god wants us to meet all the wrong people first so when the right one comes along we'll know the difference. |
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Whats wrong with you is that you have been programmed to put love itself on a pedestool, and to believe that there is someone (or perhaps more than one) out there who is " just right " for you and who will always make you feel perfect and flawless, and who will, through the love they give you, make this false construct you have about life and love become a reality.
And since this is impossible, you just keep going from person to person trying to find him. This is why, you were attracted to him when he made you feel special. When this becomes the case, that you are looking to be made to feel special, you are going to miss the mark every time in terms of ending up with a person with whom you can develop the only kind of love that turns out to be real and lasting - that is a love based on give and take, on accepting the imperfections of the partner, on helping each other survive a world where there IS mundane pain, suffering (as well as joy and happiness), and most importantly, on being with a partner that helps you survive all this based on who you really are - not on who you wish you were, some "special" prson who is waiting for a destiny of a magical life.
Do yo0u see how opposite these are - the partner who is knowledgable about life and kind and realistic compared to the person who is skilled at making you feel "special?" (Ted Bundy and other serial killers were successful at making women trust them for the very reason that these nutcases were very good at making their victims feek special and wonderful and beautiful. Then they would kill them.)
I kind of agree with the person above who said that nothing is wrong with you and that these “mistakes” in boyfriends are just honing you to be able to see the right one when he comes along -as long as you ARE learning from mistakes and thus getting better and better at not making.them. But if you are seeing no improvement, just ending up with these “losers” as you call them (they are not really losers, no more than you are - they are just ending up to be YOUR wrong choices) then it would probably be a good idea for you to get someone to help you with all of this. Perhaps a good , wise friend, your minister, or even a good psychologist or counselor who is experienced in relationships. |
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Excellent advice. Just excellent!!!! |
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let him go you don't need him any way |
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for one, that happens to almost every girl. we just love the assholes, something about them makes us go YAY i get to get fucked over. personally since i was a kid its been my goal kindof to make a badass turn to a good guy who can appriciate life the way i do and i can show him the world. idk if mentally your doing the same, but not everyone your with is going to be the right one for you. thats what its all about, seeing what you want, what you dont want, seeing wat you like and hate. it all works out in the end. |
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